Wednesday 31 December 2014

Happy New Year, Make a great journey

JOURNEY - How our life is - a note from Danish magazine, added by Aileen Noura

Life is like a journey on a train...
with its stations...
with changes of routes...
and with accidents !


We board this train when we are born and our parents are the ones who get our ticket.

We believe they will always travel on this train with us.

However, at some station our parents will get off the train, leaving us alone on this journey.

As time goes by, other passengers will board the train, many of whom will be significant - our siblings, friends, children, and even the love of our life.

Many will get off during the journey and leave a permanent vacuum in our lives.

Many will go so unnoticed that we won't even know when they vacated their seats and got off the train !

This train ride will be full of joy, sorrow, fantasy, expectations, hellos, good-byes, and farewells.

A good journey is helping, loving, having a good relationship with all co passengers...
and making sure that we give our best to make their journey comfortable...,

The mystery of this fabulous journey is :
We do not know at which station we ourselves are going to get off.
......
So, live in the best way - adjust, forget, forgive and offer the best of what we have.

It is important to do this because when the time comes for us to leave our seat... we should leave behind beautiful memories for those who will continue to travel on the train of life."

Thank you for being one of the important passengers on my train... don't know when my station will come... don't want to miss saying: "Thank you"

Thank you all for being part of this journey.

Hope to see a positive and inspiring 2015 ahead.
To the one that mean so much..our journey just about to begin, I'm enjoying it and love every moment.


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Location:Aalborg

Wednesday 17 December 2014

Know your goodself, discover your own niche

) What is your passion? This may seem a little obvious, but there are many areas you can find your niche. The key here is to list in writing what you really enjoy and also list what you really don’t enjoy. For example, I really love to build something hot (pheww) and I really don’t enjoy fixing or repairing things. A word of caution, once you tell people that you build boiler for a Solar Power plant all they think is double boiler for dim sum steamer in their head.

#2) Look for trends. A great way to find out what is trending and what is in demand is to page through recent home magazines, websites(especially Pinterest) to find what people are buying. Also, you want to do some market research and find out what homeowners are buying in the furniture field. This can be done by doing research on your own or outsource it through websites such as elance or fiverr.

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Monday 15 December 2014

If it important to meet the daily demand, it is is important to enjoy life

If it’s important to prepare for the demands of the everyday, it’s just as crucial to enjoy life. So, alongside the meetings, appointments and email replies, find time to be inspired, take in the beauty of the world, and laugh with your family and friends.






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Location:London United Kingdom

Thursday 4 December 2014

The important of play!

If everyone could live with the spirit of the child, the world would be a better place. Why?? Because the children are so curious, adventure, creative and playful. Playful?? Is that important? Yes..It is. It's the first step of learning new thing in life and adapt it accordingly to the self creativity.

I am driven to write this after a few talk with my better half.. (yes,
It's my daring time to call him my better half.. he plays a lot hence he is better than me) He asked me several times how is Andreas' social development, does he make friends, does he like to watch tv and what kind of toys he likes to play with? What makes this questions important for him to ask me?

It spurred my mind to create awareness how important to play especially with nature and be playful.

For those who are closer to me, they know that Andreas has never own an Ipad or tablet that had access to multiple online Apple/Android games. All he has is a VTech tablet that enhance motoric, maths and cognitive efficiency. Not that I never introduce him to that Angry Bird game but he has lack of interest to any game that has a pause once level failed. He doesn't see it is rewarding to play AngryBird.

Playing is one of the most important parts of life, and something that too many people forget to put into practice.

I love all the toys that children can use muscle, energy, creativity on it such as the one from SES, wooden pieces that we can construct into object.














Or Moulin Roty Tool Box for further motoric adventure













And Moulin Roty Flower Press to dry some flowers and leaves for science project or card making












Apart all these running on beach collecting seashells, playing kites, playing with mud are fun enough and bring tonnes of happiness in a child.

I've always loved the English writer Aldous Huxley's way of putting this: The secret of genius is to carry the spirit of the child into old age, which means never losing your enthusiasm.

Or, to put it in the words of the American writer Oliver Wendell Holmes, Sr: “Men do not quit playing because they grow old; they grow old because they quit playing.”

#neurocognitive #play #simpleliving #simplejoy #happiness #whatnaturegivesus

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Location:Aalborg

Monday 1 December 2014

Honor yourself

Let go of all the little white lies and charades. – How do you build credibility? It’s not rocket science. Be honest. Follow through. Honor your promises. Say sorry when you SCREW UP. Mean what you say. Apologize straight from your heart. Be the type of person you want to meet and spend time with. Be the type of person whose actions, words and values always agree with each other.




Location:Aalborg

Tuesday 25 November 2014

Why I still believe writing note is the best for academic performance.

I think I have to agree with this, taking note on via typing on the tablet or laptop is not the best idea to see academic performance in a long term. It is all about neuro-cognitive and motoric moves that develop during writing with a pen. I might sound olskool but bet with me, there is beyond artistic feeling while using Montblanc pen taking notes on Hermes PM planner.

In a study published earlier this year in Psychological Science, researchers at Princeton University and UCLA found that while computers might help you write more notes quickly, they might keep you from actually absorbing the information you write, even when you’re not switching between tabs to check your email or scroll through Facebook.

“Our new findings suggest that even when laptops are used as intended — and not for buying things on Amazon during class — they may still be harming academic performance,” lead author Pam Mueller of Princeton University said in a statement.

Why do hand-writers have an advantage? For the study, researchers asked students to watch TED Talks and take notes either by hand or on a computer disconnected from the Internet. After completing distraction tests, the students were then asked to take quizzes on the material covered in the TED Talks. While students in both groups did equally well when it came to factual questions, those who took handwritten notes had a much better conceptual understanding of the material.

“It may be that longhand note takers engage in more processing than laptop note takers, thus selecting more important information to include in their notes, which enables them to study this content more efficiently,” the researchers wrote.

So while computers allow you to write down every word that comes out of your professor’s mouth, they won’t necessarily help you synthesize and digest what’s being said, whereas hand-writers intrinsically understand what is actually important and needs to be remembered. And that can help you make better use of your knowledge in the long run.

This note was originally written by Eileen Shim and I supported with my own experience about taking note on paper
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Wednesday 12 November 2014

Some Nerdy Talk about Creativity from Isaac Isamov (my favourite Russian Idol)


Sharing stories about Isaac Asimov that Asks, “How Do People Get New Ideas?”

Note from Arthur Obermayer, friend of the author:

In 1959, I worked as a scientist at Allied Research Associates in Boston. The company was an MIT spinoff that originally focused on the effects of nuclear weapons on aircraft structures. The company received a contract with the acronym GLIPAR (Guide Line Identification Program for Antimissile Research) from the Advanced Research Projects Agency to elicit the most creative approaches possible for a ballistic missile defense system. The government recognized that no matter how much was spent on improving and expanding current technology, it would remain inadequate. They wanted us and a few other contractors to think “out of the box.”

When I first became involved in the project, I suggested that Isaac Asimov, who was a good friend of mine, would be an appropriate person to participate. He expressed his willingness and came to a few meetings. He eventually decided not to continue, because he did not want to have access to any secret classified information; it would limit his freedom of expression. Before he left, however, he wrote this essay on creativity as his single formal input. This essay was never published or used beyond our small group. When I recently rediscovered it while cleaning out some old files, I recognized that its contents are as broadly relevant today as when he wrote it. It describes not only the creative process and the nature of creative people but also the kind of environment that promotes creativity.

ON CREATIVITY

How do people get new ideas?

Presumably, the process of creativity, whatever it is, is essentially the same in all its branches and varieties, so that the evolution of a new art form, a new gadget, a new scientific principle, all involve common factors. We are most interested in the “creation” of a new scientific principle or a new application of an old one, but we can be general here.

One way of investigating the problem is to consider the great ideas of the past and see just how they were generated. Unfortunately, the method of generation is never clear even to the “generators” themselves.

But what if the same earth-shaking idea occurred to two men, simultaneously and independently? Perhaps, the common factors involved would be illuminating. Consider the theory of evolution by natural selection, independently created by Charles Darwin and Alfred Wallace.

There is a great deal in common there. Both traveled to far places, observing strange species of plants and animals and the manner in which they varied from place to place. Both were keenly interested in finding an explanation for this, and both failed until each happened to read Malthus’s “Essay on Population.”

Both then saw how the notion of overpopulation and weeding out (which Malthus had applied to human beings) would fit into the doctrine of evolution by natural selection (if applied to species generally).

Obviously, then, what is needed is not only people with a good background in a particular field, but also people capable of making a connection between item 1 and item 2 which might not ordinarily seem connected.

Undoubtedly in the first half of the 19th century, a great many naturalists had studied the manner in which species were differentiated among themselves. A great many people had read Malthus. Perhaps some both studied species and read Malthus. But what you needed was someone who studied species, read Malthus, and had the ability to make a cross-connection.

That is the crucial point that is the rare characteristic that must be found. Once the cross-connection is made, it becomes obvious. Thomas H. Huxley is supposed to have exclaimed after reading On the Origin of Species, “How stupid of me not to have thought of this.”

But why didn’t he think of it? The history of human thought would make it seem that there is difficulty in thinking of an idea even when all the facts are on the table. Making the cross-connection requires a certain daring. It must, for any cross-connection that does not require daring is performed at once by many and develops not as a “new idea,” but as a mere “corollary of an old idea.”

It is only afterward that a new idea seems reasonable. To begin with, it usually seems unreasonable. It seems the height of unreason to suppose the earth was round instead of flat, or that it moved instead of the sun, or that objects required a force to stop them when in motion, instead of a force to keep them moving, and so on.

A person willing to fly in the face of reason, authority, and common sense must be a person of considerable self-assurance. Since he occurs only rarely, he must seem eccentric (in at least that respect) to the rest of us. A person eccentric in one respect is often eccentric in others.

Consequently, the person who is most likely to get new ideas is a person of good background in the field of interest and one who is unconventional in his habits. (To be a crackpot is not, however, enough in itself.)

Once you have the people you want, the next question is: Do you want to bring them together so that they may discuss the problem mutually, or should you inform each of the problem and allow them to work in isolation?

My feeling is that as far as creativity is concerned, isolation is required. The creative person is, in any case, continually working at it. His mind is shuffling his information at all times, even when he is not conscious of it. (The famous example of Kekule working out the structure of benzene in his sleep is well-known.)

The presence of others can only inhibit this process, since creation is embarrassing. For every new good idea you have, there are a hundred, ten thousand foolish ones, which you naturally do not care to display.

Nevertheless, a meeting of such people may be desirable for reasons other than the act of creation itself.

No two people exactly duplicate each other’s mental stores of items. One person may know A and not B, another may know B and not A, and either knowing A and B, both may get the idea—though not necessarily at once or even soon.

Furthermore, the information may not only be of individual items A and B, but even of combinations such as A-B, which in themselves are not significant. However, if one person mentions the unusual combination of A-B and another unusual combination A-C, it may well be that the combination A-B-C, which neither has thought of separately, may yield an answer.

It seems to me then that the purpose of cerebration sessions is not to think up new ideas but to educate the participants in facts and fact-combinations, in theories and vagrant thoughts.

But how to persuade creative people to do so? First and foremost, there must be ease, relaxation, and a general sense of permissiveness. The world in general disapproves of creativity, and to be creative in public is particularly bad. Even to speculate in public is rather worrisome. The individuals must, therefore, have the feeling that the others won’t object.

If a single individual present is unsympathetic to the foolishness that would be bound to go on at such a session, the others would freeze. The unsympathetic individual may be a gold mine of information, but the harm he does will more than compensate for that. It seems necessary to me, then, that all people at a session be willing to sound foolish and listen to others sound foolish.

If a single individual present has a much greater reputation than the others, or is more articulate, or has a distinctly more commanding personality, he may well take over the conference and reduce the rest to little more than passive obedience. The individual may himself be extremely useful, but he might as well be put to work solo, for he is neutralizing the rest.

The optimum number of the group would probably not be very high. I should guess that no more than five would be wanted. A larger group might have a larger total supply of information, but there would be the tension of waiting to speak, which can be very frustrating. It would probably be better to have a number of sessions at which the people attending would vary, rather than one session including them all. (This would involve a certain repetition, but even repetition is not in itself undesirable. It is not what people say at these conferences, but what they inspire in each other later on.)

For best purposes, there should be a feeling of informality. Joviality, the use of first names, joking, relaxed kidding are, I think, of the essence—not in themselves, but because they encourage a willingness to be involved in the folly of creativeness. For this purpose I think a meeting in someone’s home or over a dinner table at some restaurant is perhaps more useful than one in a conference room.

Probably more inhibiting than anything else is a feeling of responsibility. The great ideas of the ages have come from people who weren’t paid to have great ideas, but were paid to be teachers or patent clerks or petty officials, or were not paid at all. The great ideas came as side issues.

To feel guilty because one has not earned one’s salary because one has not had a great idea is the surest way, it seems to me, of making it certain that no great idea will come in the next time either.

Yet your company is conducting this cerebration program on government money. To think of congressmen or the general public hearing about scientists fooling around, boondoggling, telling dirty jokes, perhaps, at government expense, is to break into a cold sweat. In fact, the average scientist has enough public conscience not to want to feel he is doing this even if no one finds out.

I would suggest that members at a cerebration session be given sinecure tasks to do—short reports to write, or summaries of their conclusions, or brief answers to suggested problems—and be paid for that; the payment being the fee that would ordinarily be paid for the cerebration session. The cerebration session would then be officially unpaid-for and that, too, would allow considerable relaxation.

I do not think that cerebration sessions can be left unguided. There must be someone in charge who plays a role equivalent to that of a psychoanalyst. A psychoanalyst, as I understand it, by asking the right questions (and except for that interfering as little as possible), gets the patient himself to discuss his past life in such a way as to elicit new understanding of it in his own eyes.

In the same way, a session-arbiter will have to sit there, stirring up the animals, asking the shrewd question, making the necessary comment, bringing them gently back to the point. Since the arbiter will not know which question is shrewd, which comment necessary, and what the point is, his will not be an easy job.

As for “gadgets” designed to elicit creativity, I think these should arise out of the bull sessions themselves. If thoroughly relaxed, free of responsibility, discussing something of interest, and being by nature unconventional, the participants themselves will create devices to stimulate discussion.

Published with permission of Asimov Holdings.


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Location:Aalborg, Denmark

Schiphol Airport - oh my favourite airport

THE TWO SINFUL PLACES TO STOP IF U ARE AT SCHIPHOL. I bet I have passed through this airport hundreds of time in my life due to my intensive travel n few years living in Leiden.

Tonight, back from Fiumicino and short transit before heading to Denmark, I managed to sip some refreshing drink to endure my half dozen of oyster at the Bubbles Seafood & Bar. A quickie treat to replenish my energy. (Well.. Oysters have tonnes of mineral)

Normally, I will buy few boxes of Neu Haus and Godiva chocolate to bring back home. But today a stop at Cafe Chocolat is a must!
Andreas is sleeping in a stroller and that makes me easier to order cakes n coffee for myself instead of asking Danilo di Falco n Per Kirk my two colleagues to do it for me.

I order a triple chocolate desserts and a cappuccino for me. The smell of the coffee..mmmm..Voila!

While I am enjoying the cake and fabulous cappuccino, I am texting to the person that I care who lives 1.5 hours from Schiphol. All these are sweetness in my life, Dolce Vita that hard to resist. I have to admit that the comfort that I have had while traveling through Schiphol Airport ; the good food, retail therapy, beautiful bouquet of tulips, clean toilets and wash area are definitely small luxury that elevates any dull autumn mood.


Some of the pies, chocolate baskets ...
























A treat in a mug for a hassle free desserts time. Choose this of u have an infant/children traveling together. Scoop some custard to feed them, it's delicious.

Here are some mini cheese cakes , layer cakes for u to share if u are travelling in a group or take away for your loved one.

If service-minded n smiling faces is what u look for before buying food to comfort your tiredness, The Bubble Seafood & Bar won. Love their smiling faces though I think dealing with fresh oysters n herrings may not be someone favourite moment.



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Location:Schiphol

Monday 10 November 2014

The reason why you should travel


Imagine yourself as an exceptionally posh, globe-trotting diva. Your conversation is full of adventure and you exude a well-bred confidence which intrigues everyone with whom you chat. Your style is impeccable and your beauty cosmopolitan. Who’s that girl? Well, it could be you! You can achieve this transformation by setting your sights on becoming well-traveled. Traveling demands that you absorb life in a different way because you break away from your usual routines. Journeys to distant locations (and even those that aren’t so distant) enlighten, expand and challenge our minds – building our intelligence and feeding our curiosity.

The number one thing holding many people back from traveling the way they’d like to is their finances. The hard truth about travel is that it can be expensive. There are ways to save on your flights and accommodations such register yourself for an airline membership club where u can earn mileage. I always choose KLM Flying Blue to collect my air mileage points. As a trustworthy airline, KLM offers wide range of cities, online shopping, network club as KLUB AFRICA n KLUB CHINA, hotels partnership , car rental companies and much more. I enjoy benefit from Leaders Club benefit that offered by Leading Hotel of the world. As their Unlimited Membership Cardholder, I am able to get access to various airport lounges, baggage concierge service, chauffeur pick-up service from most of the airports around the world.

Most of us have dreams of traveling to exotic lands and seeing all that the world has to offer. For many, though, the process of planning, booking and actually taking a vacation or work trip is elusive. If that sounds familiar, you might be wondering where to start. I want to share with you my top seven keys to becoming a world-class traveler. This post isn’t about smartphone apps to download, travel guides to read or flight and hotel websites. This post is all about the fundamentals of adjusting your mentality to create the life of travel you’ve dreamed of.

1. Create your travel dream list.

If you’re ready to don your globe-trotting gear, the first step you can take is making a dream travel list. Document the places you want to see and your travel fantasies and turn them into legitimate future plans. Pull out your travel journal (or a notebook if you don’t have one yet) and begin to list all of the places to which you’d like to travel.

List any specific sights you dream of seeing. You’re just writing a list, so there’s no pressure. Don’t worry if you’re not sure how it will happen. For you, the list might include the Eiffel Tower, the Grand Canyon, the Mona Lisa, or the Statue of Liberty. When I created my travel dream list, it revealed what type of traveler I was. Your list will do the same for you. You might be a fashionista, a foodie, an art connoisseur, or an extreme adventurer. Whatever your bent, it will shine through.

Periodically take out your travel list and review what you have written. As new interests arise, add them to your list. The creation of this list marks the beginning of your new life with travel and fun adventures.

Ivanka Trump knows about the power of travel. She said “In both business and personal life, I’ve always found that travel inspires me more than anything else I do. Evidence of the languages, cultures, scenery, food, and design sensibilities that I discover all over the world can be found in every piece of my jewelry.”

2. Maintain travel files.

At this stage, you are getting pretty serious about enjoying a life full of extraordinary travel experiences. It’s time to do what the pros do! Purchase colorful, loose file folders or an accordion file. Label each folder with a destination on your list. Now, start collecting data on your dream trips. If you come across an informative article about an outstanding restaurant in a city you plan to visit, clip it and put it into your files. If a friend gets to one your dream destinations before you do, have them bring back postcards or literature and put them in your file.

If you do a lot of your travel reading online, you can keep travel ‘files’ on Pinterest as well. Create a board for each of your dream destinations and pin relevant photos, tips, guides and reviews as your come across them.

Working on your travel files prepares you for an opportunity that doesn’t exist yer, but believe me, preparation is never lost time. Due to your diligence, many of your dreams will come to pass sooner than you ever thought they would.

Dwight Eisenhower said “Plans are nothing, planning is everything.” Create your files and start planning this week!

3. Keep a travel journal.

As your travel dreams come true, the travel journal is an essential tool to document the wonders of your experiences. Journalizing is an extremely effective technique to pull together your thoughts and ideas. It improves your experiences by providing an accurate account of your memories.

My travel journal is so interesting to read through and look at! It’s almost become a picture book because I take so many pics and paste prints into my journal in addition to what I write. Aside from writing, you can include photos, ticket stubs, room keys or even a receipt from a special purchase. It’s a great place to keep the names of your favorite waiters, hotel staff and concierge as well. By using your own travel journal, you will be accumulating valuable information – thereby enhancing the quality of future trips.

The great St. Augustine said “The World is a book, and those who do not travel read only a page.”

4. Create a travel scrapbook.

This is like your travel journal, but not as intimate. This more of a coffee-table book for everyone to see. It shouldn’t contain your secret thoughts, inner discoveries of breakthrough ideas. Instead, pack it with photos and small captions that highlight your trips. If you only keep your photos in your phone or on your computer, you probably won’t go back and look at them very often. Having a beautiful, physical recording of your travels can be a great way to spend time with family, or a sophisticated conversation-starter when you have company. With a little effort, your scrapbook can blossom into an outstanding documentary of your travels.

Margaret Russell, Editor in Chief of Archictectural Digest, said it well: “The glories of traveling abroad can be grasped not just by the hands, but by all senses.”

5. ALWAYS have your camera

To be without your camera is a travel catastrophe. Some things can never be described, retold or recreated. When you’re traveling, use a real camera. Some smartphones have pretty good cameras. These are fine for taking selfies and everyday use around your hometown. When you’re traveling, though, you’re capturing moments that are pieces of your history. A good camera with a good lens can’t be replaced by your phone. Invest in yourself and your memories by purchasing a high quality camera before your next trip.

In my hand luggage I always have my camera, iPod, make-up bag, tooth brush, cleansing products, clean underwear, socks and a change of clothes in case anything goes missing at the other end – and of course my passport.”

6. Return home to an inspiring atmosphere.

No matter how beautiful or exciting my destination, the comfort and joys of home are always missed. Make arrangements to return home to an inviting atmosphere. Start early and be organized when packing so you aren’t forced to return to a house in disarray. If you have a cleaning service, schedule them to come just before you leave so your house is in pristine condition. If you don’t have a service, find the time to do the task yourself. It’s worth it to create a peaceful entry into your own pleasant surroundings as the perfect way to end any trip.

7. Create a lifestyle that allows you to travel.

Bottom line is that it takes money to travel well. On top of that, you need to have time off and be able to coordinate your time with your family or travel partners. For many working corporate or public sector jobs, this can be very difficult.

#KLM #FlyingBlue #LeadingHotelofTheWorld #LHW #PriorityPass #AileenNoura

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Tactics for Asking Good Follow-Up Questions

I am posting this not to discover your inner-CIA talent or teaching you to be a judgemental person, but dealing with daily errands and intense working chores make human instinct as a rare commodities to be used. I combined some notes from the books that I read, paper cuts, my neuro-science class and pinterest board to share this write-up with you.

Whether you are looking to hire someone, decide whether to trust someone, or enter a business partnership, the better you are at judging people, the better off you will be. Unfortunately, most people are just plain bad at reading others. Several decades of research among psychologists has indicated all sorts of blind spots, biases, and judgment errors we make in assessing people. Much of that research has focused on the mental processes we use to interpret what we see or hear. But errors also occur way before that – the problem can begin with the questions we ask to understand people in the first place.

When you want to get a read on someone, what questions do you ask? Most people have go-to questions. The ones I hear most often are open-ended questions like, “What are your greatest strengths and weaknesses?” “What do you want to be doing in five years?” and “What motivates you?” Some savvier questioners ask behavior-based questions, like “Tell me about a time when you….”. Sounds great, right? Now, ask yourself if you have ever once actually learned the truth about someone by their responses to these questions. How many times have you relied on people’s responses to these questions only to see later that those responses meant nothing at all? Most people ask a question like this and then move onto another topic, seemingly satisfied that they heard what they needed to hear. In reality, they learned nothing about the other person.

In my experience conducting interview-based assessments for the past years, I have found that this is because the first answer to one of these questions is only marginally helpful and may even be irrelevant. Yet most askers simply accept what they hear (good or bad) and, without asking any follow-ups, move on to the next topic on their list.

But the key to understanding people lies in the follow-up question. In my experience, there are two major reasons people don’t ask good (or any) follow-up questions. First, many interviewers aren’t actually paying close enough attention to ask detailed follow-up questions. To ask a good follow-up, you need to pay very close attention to how the interviewee responds to your initial question, and then build on his or her answer. The second reason most people are hesitant to probe is out of fear of offending the other person. But being polite isn’t the same thing as letting the other person off the hook.

Ask a follow-up that will help you really uncover what you are seeking to learn. Be curious, and you will be amazed what you uncover. Here are three types of follow-up questions that will enable you to understand more about a person:

1. 1. Ask your original question again, slightly differently. Don’t be afraid to ask the same question twice. If I am interviewing someone and the person either deflects my first question or doesn’t give a real response, I will often say, “Let me ask you this another way…”. It is effective because you communicate that you are not letting the person off the hook, but you’re allowing them to save face by at least implying that maybe your initial question just wasn’t clear enough. It is a highly effective method of extracting a real response that will actually be predictive of behavior.

Caution: just make sure you change the way you phrase this second question, otherwise it can seem adversarial. The key is to ask the question another way, and declare that you are doing so.

2. Connect their answers to each other. One of my favorite strategies to understand people better is to link their responses to something they said earlier. I’m not talking about an attempt to catch someone in a lie, but instead connecting the dots between their answers. Good judges of character do this naturally – they listen intently, and tie what they hear to something said earlier in the conversation. Ask something like, “Oh, that’s like the time you…?” or, “Is that what you meant earlier when you said…?”. Beyond allowing you to understand the person better, it communicates that you are really listening, and actually provides meaningful insight to the person by pointing out a connection that he or she may have not even seen. It allows you to synthesize information rather than just hear it.

Caution: Overusing this can make you seem like a police detective seeking a “gotcha” moment. Avoid saying things like, “But that’s not what you said earlier…” What I am suggesting is to synthesize rather than interrogate.

3. Ask about the implications of their answer. When people answer a question without being particularly revealing, or by giving a very safe answer, what do you do? For instance, when asked about greatest weakness, someone says, “I’m a perfectionist” or “I work too hard.” Rather than accept answers like that at face value, seek to really understand the person by asking about the implications of their answers. With a self-proclaimed perfectionist, you might ask, “How does your perfectionism play out in the workplace?” or “What are the consequences of your detail orientation?” And don’t stop there – keep asking implication questions until you are satisfied you know what you need to know about the person.

Caution: When asking about implications, avoid being a litigator and turning them into leading questions. Instead, truly be curious about the behavior and what its effects are.

Coming up with a great list of questions is only the first step in conducting an in-depth interview. It’s the follow-up questions that will really tell you who you’re dealing with.

"Listening" in my humble opinion is the key to asking good questions




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Wednesday 29 October 2014

Spa food are always healthy - Mango beef salad

A suggestion for a quick energy fix - Mango are full of vitamin C n beef are great protein source. Add some spices to it for an energy boost.








Finely shredded mango.








Some spices to dump in it







Fresh beef from the butcher. Quick fry them, thinly sliced

Mixed it and enjoy it




#mangosalad #beefsalad #spafood #rawfood


Stay chic stay healthy

Location:Copenhagen Denmark

Monday 27 October 2014

Morning motivation

I work hard nt to get my signature as an autograph, am nt a celebrity BUT my signature is needed for many projects approval💪That does matter


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Location:Copenhagen, Denmark

One word can destroy your credibility

I had been questioned what are the words that I will never say in front of public or written in social media I said "really?" and "honestly" in front of public. After two Malaysians student did their PhD defense and correcting my R&D staffs doing presentation, I feel the need to voice out the art of communications that had gone wrong. Throughout slanga English by adding local accent into Pompous British language, I feel the word "really? and "honestly" definitely send wrong signal to the listeners or readers..



Do you need to say ...!

1) "really?" in a corporate vocabulary?

2) "honestly" ..... close your eyes and imagine someone in front of you and other leaders hearing someone says..Honestly..i think this..

Now question yourself... 1) Why do u need to use the word "honestly" when you have the so-called bulletproof facts and tests?



Here, In my opinion..he/they wanted something - approval. He thought that it was a way to make a hard point, but we all questioned whether he was lying to us at all other times.

I smirked (on face or crunching my heart in a while) whenever I heard they said it and alarm bells went off in my head. Beginning a request with “honestly” didn’t inspire anyone around u to give you whatever you wanted in a better or faster fashion; it just made others suspicious of you.



Why?



To be credible, you should be straightforward every time. And when you are, no qualifier like “honestly” is needed. Authenticity is the only honesty you need.

I believe that “honestly” is the most damaging word in business for three reasons:



Using the term “honestly” at best undermines and at worst destroys your credibility. Some people will react like I did to the sales VP and question your overall transparency – or your level of honesty in other situations. Using that term calls one’s integrity into question.



Window to your frustration



Employing a term like “honestly” is like a “tell” in poker: it grabs attention, sometimes when you least want it and often after someone has disagreed with you.

Don’t let your words be a window to your frustration! Whatever frustration you have is best communicated with direct words – and yes, communicated honestly. Use your clarity of thought and tone to share your point-of-view. Don't let threatening words like "honestly" to try to make a case for you.



Creates distance



Prefacing a statement with “honestly” creates distance. It pushes people back, making it harder for them to get close and to see your point. This approach harms your own relationship-building, let alone any argument that you are poised to make. Words matter a lot, and your integrity matters more; don’t compromise it by creating the chasm of a bad impression. To draw people in, be earnest in your interactions every time.



Kudos to you if you have learned to avoid using words like "honestly." And if you don't use them, you probably are keenly aware of them when they are spoken.



"Honestly" might even give you a little scare if it is a word that does not cross your lips. But move beyond the initial shiver because there are insights to be learned. Listen closely for why the speaker chose the word. There is emotion/motivation to be gleaned from whatever follows.



For the best self-presentation in the workplace, think about the words you use and how you deliver them. Seek language that is clear and positive and which avoids the risk of drawing your integrity into question. Speaking eloquently, confidently, directly, and in an unqualified manner will reduces misunderstandings and will increase respect for you as well as for the message you are delivering.



Honestly, how do you feel when you hear the word? You are thinking and smiling, aren't you?





Thursday 23 October 2014

A small attempt means a lot in our life

Is sharing knowledge is considered caring...?

My passion are always cooking, baking, traveling, reading, painting and collecting, caring for my orchids.
With all those social media mushrooming, we are blessed with apps that connect us with many strangers, sharing knowledge, hobbies, recipe, travel experiences and even coffee buddies. The positive aura from the new network that we gained from social are (sometimes) overwhelmed. Some comments are meant to banter in a positive way, some sounds almost bickering, some posts that show us are further talented than the gossip mongers will be labelled as narcissist. Some posts with haute-couture cladded at product launching events will hit some perverts' bottom bone goes harder and nastier.

Questions are paramount in our mind. We started to questions ourself ..

1) Early compliment with likes, comments on posts and photoes - we can imagine their attitude on how they reacted on posts.
- some are nosy and noisy
- some will provoke and spoil our day even though our post is to generate positivity. We can't stop these people

2) Photoes privacy - will our educative photo will be used on their social media without any credit to us. Will our photoes will be photo-imposed by the small-brainy.

When it comes to educative/informative non-photoes posting on Facebook or on twitter, will our talent/knowledge get the credits?

I love to write, I love to share my recipes, my knowledge/technique on baking, scientific/health info but then sometimes it gets too much. there are times where i just dont feel like sharing... not that i dont want to but time is not on my side .. sharing is indeed caring but when credit is not given where it is due... it can really make one decide to just keep it simple and post pics in IG or twitter instead. Complied to all means in my life, I earned my knowledge from cooking not from Internet, I can say 80% of my cooking, baking knowledge I harvested from my mak, my uwan, books, chef wan for Malay cookings, Gordon Ramsay for baking. I am from that senza-Internet era.


#socialmedia #apps #saythanku

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Location:Varberg, Sweden

Wednesday 8 October 2014

Turmeric (kunyit, ibu kunyit, curcuma longa.

Turmeric...I had written down about this topic years ago. But instead of editing it, I prefer to script down this valuable herbs that had grown in Malaysia and other places in Asia.

Once tasting or browsing the Malay cuisine, one may seen the yellow color in many of the soup and curries. Turmeric are added to these foods in pure root form that has been pounded or sadly from a 'processed turmeric' in a powder form.

Connecting the link between mother (ibu in Malay language), as the source of nurturing and the rainforest as a source of life, some plants in Malay medicine have had the word ibu incorporated into their names. Hence, appropriately enough, turmeric's main rhizome is more often referred to as ibu kunyit. This means that herbs are highly demanded/well-used/highly prized in post natal,skin and digestive health, is one such example.

Echoing the Malay mother's faith in the range of ibu kunyit's healing properties, turmeric is also used in many Ayurvedic, traditional Chinese medicinal and allopathic remedies.

The US national institutes of health currently has 4 clinical trials in progress studying the effects of curcumin, the active ingredient in turmeric. It is believed tht it may have real benefits in the treatment of pancreatic and colorectal cancer, multiple myeloma and even Alzheimer's disease.

In traditional Malay home healing, the rhizome is the main part used, although the leaves are sometimes used to flavor and enhance the aroma in cooking. The flowers are normally eaten raw as ulam (salad - without any dressing), and are believed to cleanse the blood. The young rhizomes are also eaten raw as a postpartum protective treatment.

Mixed with lime, the rhizome is topically applied to treat bruises, sprains, wounds and leech bites while a decoction is taken for treating diarrhea, dysentery, flatulence, dyspepsia, colic, jaundice and amenorrhea.

It is also drunk to kill worms in the stomach and has found it's way into beauty care as dilapatory.

Science has now shown that turmeric contains up to 5 percent essential oil and about 3 percent curcumin. The essential oil has been shown to have anti-inflammatory, anti-fungal and anti-bacterial properties, while petroleum ether extract of turmeric possesses anti-inflammatory and anti-fertility properties. Various scientific studies on curcumin, a polyphenol extracted from turmeric, have revealed anti bacterial, anti-protozoan, anti viral, anti-fibrotic, hypolipemic, hypochlesteremic, hypoglycemic, anti-coagulant, anti-oxidant, anti tumor and anti carcinogenic properties. Ar-turmerone (studied by the Arabs or Spanish maybe ; due to the 'Ar' as the preliminary name) another extract from the rhizomes, possesses anti-venom activity.

Curcumin is currently available in pure form and it is expected to be developed into a novel in the neat future.

Turmeric, is also Ayurvedic wonder rhizome found in countless herbal healing recipes, finds its way into many concoctions for both children an adults. For diarrhea, a teaspoonful of fresh turmeric is mixed with the juice extracted from the holy basil plant ( ocimum tenuiflorum ) and given once every four hours until symptoms clear up.

- Stay fabulous for healthy life

Thursday 10 July 2014

Healthy tea - Promoting the taste of Kusmi Tea BB detox

Are you a tea or coffee person? I enjoy both of them. I love tea, all sorts..black, white, green, herbal tea and concoctions of Any leaves, spices that give me pungent effect to my health, mind and life. I love to follow the tea trending too. One of my favourite tea brand is Kusmi Tea. I also like Miller Harris, Fortnum & Mason, Tea Palace and Malaysian Tea brand - Boh.

When I was ill, my friend bought me this Kusmi BB Xoted tea.








It has green tea, dandelion, guarana (in a tea!!), fennel and grapefruit.








Grapefruit or it's elegant name is pampelmousse is now the chicest, trending and favourite smell amongst the tea perfumer in 2014.







This BB Detox Tea is perfect for a beautiful skin. It can be enjoyed hot or iced at anytime of the day.

Thank u A for bringing this to me. It really put a BIG smile on me everytime I sipped it. Either I'm pleasantly think that I will be a beautiful princess after drinking it or I just enjoy the endurerance of our friendship. (Both!)

- aileennoura says eat well, stay fabulous, be happy, travel often and age gracefully

Bucket list

Have u ever had a bucket list? A list to sort out your BIG wish list in life and sometimes u can sort it out according to months, season, week or years. To call it as self-resolution sounds so ambitious, so I rather called it BUCKET list to make it fun n less stressful to achieve.

Remember to reward yourself after u have accomplish any.


- aileennoura says eat well, stay fabulous, be happy, travel often and age gracefully

Thursday 26 June 2014

Brown sugar scrub

Brown sugar is dark, unbleached raw sugar. In some country it is known as Demerara sugar, raw sugar, gula merah or gula jawa.

These are bundle of brown sugar that I saw at Phuket Wet Market.
I love the smell of caramel.




To make the brown sugar body scrub, u have to mix 2 parts of brown sugar, 1/2 part olive or almond oil, some dried lavender or dried rose petals. Blend well and keep it in a mason jar.

Your skin will easily glow after using this scrub due to high content of AHA but don't worry, it won't peel your skin off as the oil will keep it moist.


- aileennoura says eat well, stay fabulous, be happy, travel often and age gracefully

Wednesday 25 June 2014

I Love My Tropical Home Country

Can you guest where do I come from? Despite my current location which is visible to the readers..I proud to informed that I was born in Perak, Malaysia

This rich land with a recorded history of trade and abundance stretching back two millenia, was known to early explorers, traders, scholar as Suvarnabhumi in Sanskrit and Aurea Chersonees in Latin both meaning 'golden land'. Home to the world oldest and most biologically diverse tropical forest, Malaysia is also a mosaic of cultures that draw an ancient traditions and bounty from the rainforest as sources of healthcare and beauty.


#rainforestherbs #tropicalherbs #malaysia #malaysiaspaproduct #turmeric #jamu # rawjamu #ramuan

In Malaysia..some raw roots are grated, sieved, mixed with water and honey. This concoctions is called jamu. The ingredients is called ramuan in Malay


Respect Nature and Use the sustainable spa product

How often do you look at the label and ingredient of your beauty products (prior to purchase them)?



Try to choose the most sustainable product like L'Occittane, Origins that avoid parabene in the Product, plus they grow their own flowers and plants

Why I am here again...

Blogging really consumes minutes of your life.. Sometimes I feel that 24 hours per day is not enough. I decluttered my wardrobe currently as well as some part of my life. ;-) Things u r not happy with, should not be kept. Previously I was an apps junkie. At my age, I feel hyped exploring some gadgets and apps that evolves my creativity. Then I saw my notebook and some papers regarding spa tips, courses that I have attended 11 years ago. I joyed myself for few seconds rekindled the memories, experiences that I had gone through in spa business, spa networks...it stopped after I told myself..why I wasted the knowledge that I had in this closet.

I quitted my spa business as we moved back to Switzerland and since then I am back to my engineering work.


So today, After having this fantastic Kusmi tea..I inspired myself (well..who else) to write back in my blogs.

After a long syhhhhh...

Mundane months passed in both sweet, bitter way..sometimes I understood that that I learnt the hard way in many things in life. Work, friends, family, experiences and health.


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